Give up wishing you could turn back time. Your next romantic partner will benefit from all of that, and from your passions for the life that's in front of you. Focus on what you've gained - rich experiences, accomplishments, survivor skills and wisdom. The truth is that you've earned your age. One is learning the rules the other has 'been there, dated that' and wonders, 'Now what?' It's daunting to consider starting over. But what about the deeper, more mature love that allows for the wide spectrum of experience and truth? That's where you should set your sights.įor every 20-something entering the gay dating scene full of wide-eyed wonder, there's a 50-something (or a 60-, 70- or older-something) man back on the market after a relationship ends.
Maybe you just stopped believing in the kind of naive love that you can only trust when you're young. If you think you're too old for love or you stopped believing that you can find someone to love who'll love you back, think again.
And remember that the most important characteristics - loyalty, humor, intelligence and compassion - are ageless. Focus instead on being your best self, no matter what your age. Worried you aren't good-looking enough anymore? Who'd want you when there's some 30-year-old hottie turning everyone's heads at the gym? Don't even let yourself go there.
